Guest Post By Jade Zwane:
I remain very grateful to Touch and his co-hosts for having had me on the show. It is unfortunate that the interview was cut short and that it lead to the crew being pulled off air. I would do it again! It was educational and informative. I don’t regret that some of the listeners learned something from me. I don’t regret that the interview resulted in some parents broaching the subject of sex with their children. I love my job and will not sacrifice myself to make others feel safe. Safe from the subject of “sex”, which remains a taboo.
We can no longer, as a nation, afford to turn a blind eye to the consequences of sex or lack thereof. Unfulfilling sex lives contribute a large deal to broken marriages. The high rate of HIV/AIDS related deaths of our people cannot be denied and should not be ignored.
Population explosion , unplanned pregnancies and tribal customs are the stereotypes that are impeding South Africa’s growth. We are becoming a welfare state with a generation of offspring that lack social equalities to be free thinkers and develop the necessary skills to advance the country .
Sadly, education is lacking in the context of development and social skills as well as sex education for safe sex and planned parenthood .
I’m fortunate to have parents who started the conversation of sex at puberty. The conversation continues today. Now I am very aware that this is not common place. Especially for black parents. I was told of the dangers and consequences of sexually transmitted diseases. Unplanned pregnancies that were on the rise at the time, how masturbation in the comfort of my room every now and then was a healthy and normal part of growing up. I was taught to ask questions about anything I was uncertain of whether it be about sex or geography.
Various studies that have been conducted show that children with whom sex is discussed often choose to wait until after their teens to engage in partner sex. I am an example of this theory. I waited until I was twenty three. I made the decision and discussed it with my mother who then sent me to a gynecologist for a consultation.
My desire is to ignite the conversation between parent and child in homes where it is currently not happening. I desire to educate, liberate and empower especially the nation’s women in the arena of sex. I desire to create a lineage of sexually liberated women who are waking up the planet.
I desire to be one of the best female speakers and facilitators on the planet.
I desire to leave every person I come into contact with more sexually empowered than before we met. I am relentlessly dedicated to my own freedom and living the life that I want so that I can inspire others to do the same.
Jade Zwane
Author. Life and sex coach