I know already you guys are like…… WTH is Kiki up to now? Lol, yeh, let’s talk about sex baby.
I wrote this article on Wednesday last week thinking of having it up on that Friday but then I held it back because of Anything Goes. When I saw some of the comments there later on I was on a TJO moment because in my mind I had that same topic – SEX.
Anyway,I have crazy people in my life. So here we are having a conversation the other day. A friend of mine was complaining about the too much sex in her relationship. She says things are so bad that she is even willing to end the relationship because she just can’t keep up with her man and she is starting to think he is a sex addict. Then on the other hand there is another friend complaining about lack of sex. She says her man is weak and she is the extra active one, she is getting tired of it. I told them to switch partners. LMAO! This is proof that we are all different when it comes to bedroom action. When are we ever satisfied ladies? Hehehehe
I mean really now, when exactly is sex too much? Too little sex I can understand but too much? Lol, mna I can only complain at that moment when my kitty kat is roughed up but the next day I am fully recovered. Or maybe for those few hours but the minute I see him later on then I am on to him and I forget how gatvol I was in the morning or the night before.
I think most of the times the problem is HOW we have sex, not HOW MUCH we’ve had it. There is that type of sex that will put you off nje because there is no connection at all. The guy just wants to hump uncontrollably and continuously like it’s their first time. That type ke needs some training. Honestly I don’t think I can have it so bad that I’d want to end things only because it’s too much. I may end things only if it’s bad but I will have to try and find a solution to the problem first before I get the stepping. Too much sex? How many times are we talking here kante for it to go that far? I asked a male friend of mine and he said men don’t get tired of sex. They can have it 24/7 without even thinking twice. In a way it’s a good thing because that means they find their woman attractive 24\7 akere? But if it’s with different women then hai ke that’s a problem.
I once saw a tweet where someone asked ‘Would you date a recovering sex addict?‘ Someone responded and said “Why are they recovering?” Lmao!! I think as long as the sex is good I’m sure a balance can be found. You can’t just be an addict when you don’t even know how to do it right. If you over love it then take time to school yourself and up your game so that your partner can enjoy and not get to a point where they feel the need to walk away because of too much sex. This applies to us women too. Nithanda kabi to lay on your backs and just open the legs expecting the man to do ALL the work, that’s unfair. Another online friend of mine said yena she is proudly lazy in bed that is why she prefers Nigerian men because they are active, meaning she has no intention of upping her sex game at all. This is sad and I told her she is being unfair to the guys and she should not be surprised when they cheat. We know cheating happens for different reasons but mina I refuse for a man to cheat or leave me because of bad sex. ANGEKE!! We can have our differences that make us incompatible and we go our separate ways but our adventurous sexual moments should stay stuck in his mind because it is the best or one of the best he’s ever had.
Sex is a two way street, you do me and if it’s worth it I give it back to you. Proper fair exchange. So when does it get to that point where it’s considered as too much? Is it true that it can be too much? Is it really too much or it’s just bad? I know us women go through certain changes with our bodies, especially during or after pregnancy we kinda slow it down a bit but it doesn’t last forever does it? It shouldn’t.
By Kiki Marli
@KikiMarli